Listen to the podcast on asking for help and Wayne’s top tip for isolation- Reaching out and connecting with people who you haven’t connected with in a long time.
The Evolved Caveman Apple Podcast | The Biggest Barrier to Success - Being Afraid to Ask
“Over the past 15 years, Wayne Baker has taught me one of the most important lessons of my career. The biggest barrier to generosity (and success) is not that others are unwilling to give but that we are afraid to ask.” Adam Grant, NY Times bestselling author.
Often, the most powerful ideas are the simplest. Find out how you can begin to master the one tool that stands between you and success: the ability to ask for what you need to succeed and be happy.
The Man Box culture teaches the value of self-reliance. 85% of Americans agree that “I would rather depend on myself than others.” But, as always, you can take things too far. If you don’t ask for advice, you may miss out on valuable opportunities. Failure to seek early treatment for depression and/or anxiety prolongs the length of the issue. And trying to do it all can lead to stress and burnout.
Discover what keeps you from asking for what you need and how to get better at this invaluable skill.
ExecuNet Master Class Session - 'How to Connect Meaningfully in the Virtual World Meetings, Job Searches, and More'
Many situations can be overwhelming, frustrating, or stressful, and yet almost all can be resolved simply by reaching out to a colleague, friend, acquaintance, or wider network and making an ask.
Further, connections with others are vital for our mental and physical health and wellbeing. That’s why—in a time of social distancing—it’s important to be able to connect meaningfully with others in a virtual world.
Asking for help makes us better and less frustrated at our jobs. It helps us find new opportunities, new jobs, and new talent. Yet, we rarely give ourselves permission to ask. The sudden shift to virtual-only interactions has exacerbated this problem.
Luckily, the research shows that asking and getting what we need is much easier than we think, even in a suddenly virtual world—as long as we know what to do and how to do it.
In this ExecuNet Master Class session, Wayne Baker, author of All You Have to Do is Ask, highlights the learnings from his book and shares a few of the tools—used at companies like Google, GM, and IDEO—that individuals, teams, and leaders can use to make asking for help a personal and organizational habit, with an emphasis on how to use these tools in a virtual world. Topics include:
Obstacles to asking for what you need and how to overcome them
Methods for figuring out what you need
SMART criteria for making an ask
Tapping the full potential of your network
Crowdsourcing with technology, such as Givitas and other tools that allow people to tap into the giving power of a network.
Practical recommendations to make meaningful connections
The Science of Success Podcast | Wayne Baker & Larry Freed
In this podcast leadership models of giving and taking are explored.
“The leader should model the behavior they want in others. As a leader, you have to be willing to make a request and be the chief help seeker. …If you want to maximize your effectiveness and your performance, you need to give and take.“
The Remarkable Leadership Podcast with Wayne Baker
In this episode, Wayne discusses with Kevin
The reciprocity ring
The law of giving and receiving
SMART criteria for asking
Messiah Community | The Power of Learning How to Ask
Messiah Community Radio Talkshow interviews Wayne Baker on “The Power of Learning How to Ask” and making a thoughtful request in business.
Something You Should Know | Why it's Hard to Ask for Help (But Do It Anyway)
You’ve heard your whole life – “If you need help, all you have to do is ask!” Well that turns out to be more true than you probably ever imagined.
Asking Up, Why Is It So Hard? The James Altucher Show With Wayne Baker & Adam Grant
Why It's CRUCIAL To Learn How to Ask & Negotiate: I Talk to University of Michigan Professor Wayne Baker & Wharton Professor Adam Grant on How to Create More Opportunities & Make More Money
We're all scared to ask for certain things: a raise, permission to work from home, more vacation time, seed money, an introduction, whatever. You know what it is for you. So I invited Wayne Baker, author of All You Have to Do Is Ask: How to Master the Most Important Skill for Success" and Adam Grant, esteemed Wharton professor and best-selling author of "Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World" to come on and share which tactics are best for motivating people, negotiating, asking for difficult things and more.
Harvard Business Review, IdeaCast: The Art of Asking for (and Getting) Help, with Wayne Baker
Alison Beard of HBR IDEACast, Harvard Business Review, interviews Wayne Baker
The Art of Asking for (and Getting) Help
Are you a overly generous giver? What is an overly generous giver? In this interview Wayne outlines different types of givers and helpers, such as help seeking- autonomous vs dependent. Baker also describes the importance of two main ideas of how to being generous and help people, freely.
The two discuss the difference in a willingness to ask for help across several demographics, including junior vs senior levels or leaders, men vs women, and across cultures and ages.
Beard questions Baker on proven methods in asking for help when you don’t know exactly what you need or who to ask for it. Later Baker outlines the acronym SMART and how to make a “SMART” request.
They discuss cross-collaboration workshops and how to roll them out in your team.
Eric Tremuende's One-Degree Shift Podcast With Wayne Baker
How is it that we can get exactly what we want if people don’t know what we’re looking for? Maybe all we really have to do is ask! Being as distracted as we are, it can be difficult to truly understand what someone is looking for and mustering the courage to ask a SMART question isn’t easy. Duration:19:05
Second City Works | Getting To Yes, And... | Podcast With Wayne Baker
The Second City has produced some of the most unforgettable satire and influential comedians of the last sixty years. Its pioneering methods inspire the mindsets and behaviors that lead to rapid innovation and incomparable content. Second City Works uses those same methods to create professional development, content, and events that drive personal growth and organizational improvement.
Host Kelly Leonard talks to Dr. Wayne Baker who teaches in the Ross School of Business at the University of Michigan about his new book "All You Have To Do Is Ask: How To Master The Important Skill for Success."
I finished your book over the weekend and happened to be listening to a podcast where they were interviewing the poet David White and he was talking about how human beings can be reluctant to ask themselves and others a beautiful question.
“It's true. People have a great reluctance to ask questions and it comes from a couple of different reasons, a couple of barriers or obstacles to asking. People are concerned that they're going to appear to be incompetent or weak or that they can't do their job. But, you know, what's interesting here is that we need to update our beliefs based on evidence from research. There was some new research done by a Harvard Wharton team and they learned that as long as you make a thoughtful request, people will think you are more competent, not less.”
And you have scientific evidence that asking people for help is a good thing.
“People want to help. And you know, when you are vulnerable, when you ask for what you need, you discover that you can be more creative and perform better at your job. Tasks are easier to do. No one is an island or completely self-reliant. When we ask for what we need, we get the inflow of resources, ideas, opportunities, referrals, connections - all sorts of things that we need to be productive.”
I found it interesting that you talk about teams needing both strong internal and external relationships to maintain health and productivity.
“Absolutely. The best teams have strong internal relationships and external relationships. So you can imagine if you don't have good internal relationships where people feel psychologically safe, to give and get help, to ask questions and to admit mistakes, that would be a problem. Some teams have that, but they work in isolation and you know, they're just one out of the whole network. Teams need input from other parts of the organization, even outside of the organization. And they do that by cultivating give and take relationships.”
Productivityist Podcast | Wayne Baker
“Asking for help can be a real challenge – and it keep us from reaching our full potential. The conversation we have on this episode should help you get better at asking. Dr. Baker and I discuss why we need help from others to be more productive, why generosity within a company isn't the issue when it comes to developing a culture where asking is fostered, and how leaders can use certain techniques and tools to build a habit of asking in themselves and their colleagues.”
How can company leaders help cultivate a culture of generosity and nurturing the idea of asking ?
Wayne Baker Encourages You to Ask for Help on Hack the Process Podcast
A Show About Moving Mindfully From Planning Into Action
You know that one unobtainable thing you need? You might be able to get it just by asking, according to Dr. Wayne Baker. His new book, All You Have to Do is Ask, can tell you why it works and show you how to do it, based on years of research and work in the field of generalized reciprocity. In this episode of Hack the Process Dr. Baker will tell us how he structures his time to put writing at the start of his day, what surprised him about his initial research into generosity, and why it’s important to communicate the meaning of your request for help.
Podcast Release: Do You Need To Ask For Help More?
Do You Need To Ask For Help More? Dr. Wayne Baker in ‘Making Positive Psychology Work’ Podcast with Michelle McQuaid
McQuaid is a best-selling author, wellbeing teacher and research in positive psychology, neuroscience, and business success.
In This Podcast You’ll Learn:
[03:15] – Wayne explains why being a good giver-requester at work shapes our success and wellbeing in workplaces.
[04:29] – Wayne outlines how his research on giver-requesters intersects with the research of Professor Adam Grant on being successful self-protective givers.
[06:07] – Wayne shares what the research is finding on how gender influences our ability to ask for help at work.
[06:57] – Wayne offers insights on how age and power influence our ability to ask for help at work.
[08:39] – Wayne outlines how psychological safety in our workplaces influences our ability to ask for help at work and what we can do to improve this
[10:34] – Wayne outlines the SMART criteria to make it easier to ask for help at work and for people to say yes.
[13:12] – Wayne shares his free assessment tool to measure your ability to ask for help and shares the findings surfacing from this new research.
[14:54] – Wayne shares the barriers that make it difficult for most people to ask for help at work and how we can overcome these.
[18:01] – Wayne shares why researchers are finding that you should ask people more than once for help.
[19:06] – Wayne provides some plug and play routines that workplaces can use to help make asking for help easier.
[20:34] – Wayne shares how we can map the energy for asking and giving within our teams to measure what is unfolding.
[21:23] – Wayne explains how mini-games can be used to playfully incentivize a group to ask for help to solve a problem together.
[23:22] – Wayne offers some tips to help recruit and reward leaders who are chief help seekers.
[24:50] – Wayne offers two cautions about asking for help at work.
[26:28] – Wayne completes the Lightning Round.
Wayne Baker Unlocks the Power of Asking With Matt Bodnar | The Science of Success Podcast
Dr. Wayne Baker, Author of All You Have to Do Is Ask examines the power of asking with Matt Bodner, host of the podcast The Science of Success. In this interview Baker touches on many topics from his latest book, including how to make a SMART request, and why is it so hard to ask for what we really need.
Wayne Baker on Canvas Magazine's Podcast, 'Brush Strokes'
Mark Potter, host of the podcast Brush Strokes, interviews Dr. Wayne Baker about All You have to Do is Ask. In this interview Baker provides the secret to a culture of collaboration.
Wayne Baker on NetWorkWise Podcast with Adam Connors
“Reciprocity is Generosity”
Dr. Wayne Baker examines Reciprocity and Generosity in the workplace in his latest interview with Adam Connors, the host of NetWorkWise podcast series.